I know how much we all hate Dad being confused and it upsets us but we have to realize too that Dad's had issues off and on since 2006! That's when he had his stroke. I know that none of us have forgotten all the phone calls to Jeanie and Pat, especially you 2! I would give anything if there was a logical treatable diagnosis for Dad but I personally don't think there is. I talked to Pam today and she worries that Dad is being given some drug and my suggestion was that she tell the nursing staff she wants to SEE the medication records and then she can put that to rest. I am totally without a doubt convinced he is NOT getting anything to alter his mindset because trust me they would be charging out the nose for it and there aren't any charges that aren't explainable on the insurance list that Jeanie has. I know without any doubt too that we have done the totally right thing by Mom and Dad all along and will continue to do that. All of these words I'm saying with my head but I know you all know that my heart hurts because this was necessary. I have to say too that when we first even started talking about the possibility that one day we'd have to do something with them, I prayed a LOT and totally turned all of this over to God. I don't mean to sound "preachy" or anything but I'm just saying that for ME, I know God is in control of all of this and it will all be according to his will. Now is the time for making peace with all of this if there are issues about it that you/we had done differently. For me-as much as I hate it--it was and is the totally right thing to do when you try to leave your heart out of it. They were in desperate need of help and we got it for them. Dad said when we went there that first day that he "sure needed help". Gosh I hope this doesn't sound mean or hateful because I love you all and we all love Mom and Dad. We will be ok. Love, Judy