Hey, I'm fixing to head to LNC, but before I go, I want to add something to this train of thought. Sometimes we all make decisions that require tough love. Those are the hardest ones to make and the ones we keep coming back to along our entire lives! The decision to place Mom and Dad required that same tough love. They could NOT do it be themselves and could NOT do it with someone there 24 hours either. They were not getting the care they deserves and needed---that the tough love part. We didn't 'throw them away' and 'put them somewhere that was easy'---that's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. It's still hard---not because I second guess the decision---that's not it at all---not one bit. It's hard because IF I had my 'druthers---this is not how their lives would have wound up. We have prolonged their lives---I have no doubt. I used to dread everyday going over there because I was SURE I'd walk in one day and find one or both of them dead! That's not being loving letting them live in that type of setting! I mean, if I'm to that point---do SOMETHING----don't leave me there to an act of fate or malice or accident to let me lay for possibly hours in pain and fear!!! Not loving to do that! I'm sorry, but loving them as we do required some tough decisions on our part. After that, it requires continued caring---being their eyes, ears, advocates----we haven't abandoned them---we're tried to be sure they're cared for in an humane way! Something eventually happens to all of us--it's life. Do we like it? I think NOT, but it's going to happen regardless of how well WE plan and scheme and think! We can't control everything---you know I'd love to with my OCD as Judy says, but we can't! The circimstances that led to Mom and Dad going to LNC were out of our hands. We TRIED, and TRIED, and TRIED! It's just hard. Love you all, Jeanie Ok, my spell check isn't working so I'm going to apologize for any and all errors of that type! Sorry! LOL!