Pam texted me that she had an opportunity to go see Mom and Dad tonight and she took it!  She said they were  both ok. She said  Dad looked good but was tired and mumbling like yesterday evidently.  He didn't eat a lot either but it was salad and beets??That's a weird combo!  Mom ate everything.  I'm thinking it was an ok visit and the good news is that someone showed up at the nursing home to let them all know "we're watching".  Good job! Love, Judy