Saturday, June 26, 2010

My visit with Mom and Dad was pretty devastating to me. Mom was mean to me which is something she's never done. When we first got there Dad was sleeping in the hallway. We woke him up but he did say my name after me asking him a couple of times. He was talking goofy to Jeanie and I though and said at one time that a movie star was there last night. I asked man or woman and he did say man but couldn't remember the name. He asked if that was Judy in the bed and said that Judy had fed mother, etc. I have NO clue why he thought it was me but whatever! He even said that the other night he tried to wake Judy up and yelled and hollered and she still wouldn't wake up. I'm guessing he was talking about Mom. Dad just wanders off when we are there though like he couldn't possibly care one way or the other if we're there or not. He was trying to go into a room on the opposite side of the nursing station from theirs and when I told him that wasn't their room, he said "Hell, I know it's not my room", so I thought==well alrighty!!heheh Mother on the other hand is the one who devastates me because she was mean to me 2 times. She was sleeping when we first got there and the nursing staff said she had been asleep since about 8:30--it was currently 10 or so and we let her sleep till 10:30 and then tried repeatedly to get her to wake up. She would mumble to us but wouldn't wake up. We finally got nursing personnel to get her up and she was just sooooo sleepy and could barely hold her eyes open. Jeanie got her some apple juice though and she drank 2 or 3 cups of it and finally had a little animation about her. I held up a cookie and all of a sudden she snapped at me that she did NOT want that and to stop asking her! I had to fight back tears at that because you could tell by the blank look in her eyes she wasn't herself. Don't think that I'm the only one she yelled at though cause she got mad at Jeanie once and was shaking her balled up fist at Jeanie and said something about "You better not do anything to your sister" or some such weirdness. She just kept saying to me "I'm fine, I'll be alright, it's okay, etc" She even said once that she was so tired. You can tell she is too and I really worry about her just giving up. She has drastically changed over the last 2 visits as far as I can tell and I dread going back the next time if she's worse still. When we got ready to go she told Jeanie bye and then she asked me if I was going home and I told her that I was and had a long drive back. Then I got up and kissed her on the forehead and told her that I loved her and she pulled away and said "don't say you love me" and wagged her finger at me and just stared at me with that mean hateful "who are you" look. I was sick! Mom has always been my biggest fan and I can hardly stand her being in the state she is. I have to keep reminding myself that it's not MY Mom that says those things because she would never do that. I talked to Jamie on my way home and I seriously doubt that she'll be "here" in either body and/or mind for much longer. I'm seriously concerned about her. This all stinks!! Love to all, Judy

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