You are both so right about all of this. It just kills me to think about where they were such a short time ago as far as ability to do things. Hard to imagine that they were living alone in that house on Poplar with just some help in the mornings! HOW did they do that? Were they really that much better? In a way yes, but we just don't realize how bad it probably was. Dad told me once that the only way he could get Mom to "settle down" when she lost it before they went to LNC, was just to hold her. She was obviously so in tune with Dad's touch that it was still familiar to her. Even after going to LNC, one of the aides (Jessica I believe) said that a lot of times she would put them to bed together but Mom wouldn't even comprehend that today. Jeanie you're right in "how would you take them back". I personally don't think I could do that again. Dad might fight it now if he went back there--just maybe and not likely. He would think it was home I guess but I personally couldn't/wouldn't want to for ME and not him. Pat you're right too in we are so blessed to have each other. Not that we talk that much at times but just knowing I CAN talk to one of you if I have the urge is great. I love you all! Love, Judy