We all know that there isn't anything to do or we would have done it long before we put them in the home! It's horrible but I know it would be so much MORE horrible if they were living at home and there isn't any way that they could live with one of us because it would be a full time job for 3 people since you'd have to get some sleep at some point and you couldn't because you'd have to worry about what they might do if they woke up. It's just a horrible situation all around but just think of the thousands and thousands of families that go through this every day just like us. Unfortunately it's just a part of being/getting old. Ours kids will probably have the same things to deal with too. No win!! Love to all, Judy