Today is Tues. I went to see Mom and Dad today at lunchtime! Today a few things just hit me wrong. Nothing major---several minor things. I told Judy that if today had been the first and only time I'd visited, I'd have left there thinking ok they've got to go somewhere else! They were in the dining room having lunch when I got there. Dad was finished----he hadn't eaten much----and was just sitting and rolling back and forth. Mom had a container of yogurt trying to eat it! Literally she had yogurt on her nose where she had squeezed the container and was trying to 'drink' it! I immediately grabbed her spoon and fed her all the ice cream and then the yogurt. The lady on duty (I think it's Rose---but not sure) came in there after a while and made some half-a statement about 'your beautiful daughter coming to visit'. One of those compliments that's not meant to do anything but smooth---if you know what I mean. I said something about Mom shaking---she was---still don't know why! I also said something about her eating. She (Rose) says something to the effect of she won't let us do that. I'm like she acts hungry. Well, I continued to feed her everything---literally---on her plate + her cake. I said something to Dad about his cake and he said he'd eaten it. The third time I mentioned it, I stabbed it with a fork and showed it to him. He was like--Oh---and proceeded to eat it all. The guy next to Mom was in bad shape---he couldn't help it. He dumped his ice cream and dumped his strawberry milk-looking something and was reaching over grabbing Mom's food off her plate!!!!!!!! I'm like, sir, you can't do that. I moved Mom's plate and continued to feed her. He then tries to wipe his hands on Mom's pants! Dad makes a remark about him grabbing Mom's leg---like it was not right! LOL! Anyway, through all of this, Rose (or whoever she was) never came back to feed the man, pick up his mess, move him --- nothing. She came back later and Dad said something about not having breakfast. She made some move that made me look and she winked at me! I'm like--are you for real!?! I just got the impression from her that she was ONLY concerned about me --- not Mom and Dad. While I was finishing up feeding Mom----no one came over to our table the whole time except for her visits----this young male attendant came and asked Dad if he could take him back, check his briefs, etc. I finally told Dad it was ok, that I'd be there when Mom finished to change the battery in his watch for him. Well, when we got to the room, Dad was in bed!!!!!!! I went out in the hall to get a sharpie to write his name on his new socks and when I went back in the room, Mom was in bed, too!!!!!!!!!! I'm like --- well, I guess I'm finished here for today! In defense of this, Dad was asleep when I went back into the room---so I guess he WAS tired! Then when I'm leaving this same lady (rose or whoever she was) was in the front hall. She made some remark about Dad being too full to eat from the breakfast he didn't get this morning. Anyway, it just hit me wrong. I just really didn't get a good impression today at all. First time really. I'll go back at a meal time again to see how this plays out the next time. The bad thing is Mom is broke! Pat and I are going on Thurs to talk to Chad about this. This would NOT be a good time to try to move them. We'll see---if it happens again, I'll definitely say something to Michael. Maybe I just caught them at a bad time today. Ok, Love you all, Jeanie