I didn't post about my visit...really things were status quo barring a few small things.  I asked about weight...Dad had held stable at 143 for June and July, but August's weight was 141.  They had just weighed them either yesterday or the day before.  Mom was 129 for June and July and 131 for August.  I asked Debbie about adding the appetite stimulant or something and they were going to start putting ice cream or a shake on his tray with his meal.  That day they added ice cream and he ate every bite.  Mom is so drawn up although I do think she looks/seems so much more comfortable in her new chair.  She doesn't really move..Jeanie and I both commented on this and for me her hair seemed so different.  Normally, Mom's hair is like pure white spun silk, that day it seemed really flat and dull and it felt different.  Daddy was so sweet, he kept patting on Mom and touching her face.  He was pulling at her feet and she made a mad face and mumbled stop James...I think...it could have been stop that, but I like to believe it was stop James. :)  Daddy made a comment like "this nursing home has sure been a long thing" something like that. I was kind of taken aback, but then said, I know Daddy, but isn't it nice to have all this help for Mom?  He said, "Yes, they're always telling me they're going to do it, but I've been taking care of her."  I told him " You have been Daddy and you've done such a good job."     He got kind of upset after lunch and started yelling and rubbing his head...really scared me, but once they gave him his tobacco and put it in his mouth, he calmed down. By the time I left at 2:30 or so, he was fine.  Come to find out, they'd given him tobacco earlier, but he'd put it in his jacket pocket and I guess when he couldn't find it, he'd gotten a little anxious.  Debbie said he does this hollering most every day around this time...kind of a sundowners thing she told me.   Mom seems to have changed just since I've been back to Murray...just small, downward changes...a sad sad part of being 91 and having this type of disease.  I really want to try and go every week if I can.   Judy, I know you'll be glad to see them.   Love you all,  Jamie