You know, Jamie, on the fairness issue with Mom and Dad, they DID get rewards while here on Earth! They got to live long enough to raise their children, see their grandchildren, and see their great-grandchildren! They got the pleasure of knowing that all their children turned out 'good' and have productive lives and care about this country, too! They got to have each other for nearly 70 years! They didn't really want for anything all these last 50 years or so! They did some traveling, had new vehicles, and lived in good houses. They had REALLY good health up until the last few years---I mean really good health! Mom has never had a mamogram or pap smear that I know of! I mean, if you think about it, they did get a lot of rewards here on Earth! It makes me sad for them that they have to go through what they're going through now because they were such good people and such citizens, etc. The truth of the matter is that none of us came with any type of guarantee. They have definitely gotten a lot of mileage out of what they were given at birth. I don't like their now, but they really did have a good life. How wonderful is that!

On a happier note, the SmileTrain fundraiser went well. It was colder than blue blazes, but it went off without any problems! YEA! We made it home tonight to watch Macie while Jeremy and Fara went to a Halloween party for all their friends and children---probably 40 kids in all! They did hayrides all out in Ridgepoint, played games, bobbed for apples, ate, etc! He said it was so much fun. One of the houses they went to, the lady ALWAYS dresses up like Cinderella and hands out candy. Maggie was Cinderella, too, this year. She asked Jeremy after they left if they could back Monday to see Cinderella. Is that not precious!!!!!!!! You've got to love the world through little eyes! So sweet! HAPPY HALLOWEEN, Love you all, Jeanie

Yes funny in a weird way! I have this song that runs through my head all the time that talks about these times are only the dark before the morning and someday we'll see the bigger picture and that we just have to hold on tight and keep believing. As for Brittney and Frank, Ft Campbell would be awesome for sure but I'm thinking that won't happen. As of now they head to Bliss in Feb I think. At least it is the lower 48 and maybe someday they'll be able to come get all their stuff out of my garage and house!lol When is it that you leave for Hawaii? I think you said you'd be there on Thanksgiving this year, right? I know you'll all have a great time! Love to all, Judy

Life is funny isn't it?...you work hard, try to do the right things, raise your children to be good people, pay taxes, vote, be a good citizen, support your church and school and then you're rewarded by losing your mind and physical capabilities and having to wear diapers and live in a nursing home... I know our rewards are suppose to come in heaven, but shouldn't there be some on earth as well? I just have a hard time dealing with the whole fairness thing...I know, no one said life is fair, but that doesn't mean it has to suck either!! Ok...that's my whining for right now... Judy, can't believe Brit and Frank are going back to Bliss...I wish they'd get Campbell...how awesome would that be?? When will they move and when will they know for sure that's where they're going? At least it is the lower 48...could be worse, I guess! I'll get that walmart card put in the mail to Jeanie along with a birthday card for Mom...there won't be enough time to mail it when I get back from Hawaii...so I'll mail it super early!:) I'm off to hit the showers, the commissary,the px, hair cuts for the boys and laundry...all before I put on a costume and handout candy to trick or treaters!! Happy Halloween....love you all, Jamie

Bless their hearts, Oh, Lord, I pray. Keep them safe by night and day. Amen. Love you all, Jeanie

Jerry and I went to see Mother and Daddy today. We got there around 1:00. Dad was flat on his back in bed, but wide awake. Obviously, he had just gotten in bed. Mother was sitting beside her bed all slumped over to the side. I have never heard anyone grit their teeth as loud as she was! It was crazy! I'm surprised she has any teeth at all if she does that often. It was horrible. She never knew I was there. I tried to talk to her, but it was no use. She had on a white turtleneck top and it was either dirty or very stained. I also noticed her feet looked swollen. Anyway, 2 girls came in and got her in bed and she never moved after that. I didn't get to talk to Debbie - I guess she was with some patient. Dad was very alert and talking, but he kept asking Jerry if his hip was better. Don't know what was up with that. He also said that Mother always falls asleep in the car before they ever get to where they're going. Okay, I'll go back Sunday and report again. love u, pat

went to see mom and dad. I had to go late, around 7p.m. I was afraid they'd be in bed, and they were, but Dad was still awake. I was glad I went. He was glad to see me. He was a little confused, but pleasant, and sweet. He's so precious. He actually liked me tonight!:)Mom was asleep, but I patted on her, and she was breathing and sleeping soundly. I spoke to the young lady on duty. She said they had been fine since she arrived @2. I had her check their supper eating, and dad ate about 75% and Mom 25%. I'm going to Nashville tomorrow with Cary and won't be back until Sunday afternoon. Pat, I hope you can visit with them some time this weekend. Jody is going to try to stop by to or from work one day. Love, Pam

I did go see Mom and Dad today--it's Wed. The Seriquel is for behavior--not depression. I'm like you in that there's no way to diagnose Mom with depression---NO WAY! That's what I told Debbie when she called about the Lexapro! I don't want the veggie out and the lack of response. Anyway, today they were both in the dining room waiting for lunch when I got there--about 16 till 12. I waited to just see how long before they got lunch---it was like 12:27---nearly 45 minutes! They didn't seem to mind, but I got SO antsy waiting! That's nuts. Mom didn't want to wake up to eat. She was leaning to the right and forward in her wheelchair. I kept trying to push her up (and Miss Bobbie kept telling her to sit up, hold your hear up, etc---she's another patient that's a MESS!). Well, about the third or fourth time, Mom goes: Jean Marie if you don't stop that I'm going to hurt you! I cracked up! I told Judy that she either knew me--VERY doubtful---or she's just used to me being the mean one! LOL! Anyway, Dad was ok--not great. He was confused today. He said he was really tired, that he'd been up since 3:30, that he'd been in there with all women at midnight, etc. They were clean and Dad ate good. In fact he asked me if I was going to eat my bread (it was actually Mom's). I said no, and he ate it, too. Ok, I'm off to bed. We're heading to Louisville tomorrow for the Smile Train fundraiser that's Fri. Annie seems to be doing ok. She HATES the shots, but I figure you can add it to the list of things we all do that we don't like to do! LOL! If it works, then that's fine. She's up to 4 units now twice daily. They've increased her insulin each time I've taken her back in for checking. I've got to take her again on Mon. They're trying to fine out how much she needs. I'll be glad to get it stabilized, so I don't have to keep running her back and forth every couple of days to be checked. Ok, Love you all, Jeanie

Jamie it will be fine to send the card to Jeanie or I either one cause we can buy shirts with it regardless of who does the purchasing. Jeanie is giving Annie the shots but they are at the base of her head--which makes it her shoulders I think??lol --she pinches skin and then does the shot. Annie HATES them with a passion and Jeanie said Bruce was having to hold her head or she was pretty sure Annie would bite her. Sounds like Mom!lol Yes it's hard to believe they will be married 70 years. I found the photos of 60 and thought how much they've changed!! But do you remember that even at 60 Mom didn't ever realize it was their anniversary. I think she thought it was her birthday even then. Bless their little hearts!! They're hanging in there though so you got to give them credit! The Seraquil is the one they give her at night that is suppose to help her sleep I think. Jeanie is going today to see them and I'm sure she'll post in a bit. Love to all!, Judy
Oh and Jamie, Frank got his orders yesterday and they're headed back to Ft. Bliss for the 3rd time unless he can change his MOS or MOD or whatever!!!LOL

Can't believe Mom's biting!! That's scary!! The seraquil is a behavior med or is that the med they want to give her for depression? My question is how is it that the doctor diagnoses Mom depressed? Wouldn't that be based on answers to certain questions?...Like how are you feeling? How is life treating you? How does that make you feel? Are you having thoughts of hurting yourself?.....None of which Mom can answer or understand...I personally think that's a big pile of BS!! It all goes back to sedation and control and vegging her out! Judy, I have a Walmart card in my purse that Jeanie and I found in a box or drawer at Mom's...I had forgotten all about it until I cleaned out my wallet. I need to find out how much is on it and then I can just send it to you so you can purchase shirts for Mom. Sound good? Probably should do something for Mom and Dad for their 70th...WOW!! That doesn't seem real does it? I hope I still like my husband at 30 let alone 70th!!:) Jeanie, so sorry about Annie's shots...do you give them to her in the stomach? Once a day? Poor thing...I hate it for both of you!! I'm on my way to the showers and then bed...it's been a long week and it's only Tuesday.......Love you, Jamie

Okay sisters I'm giving you all a "heads up" because I realized a few days ago that December 25 will be Mom and Dad's 70th wedding anniversary. We had a 50 years celebration and a 60 so do we want to do something? I don't mean anything "big" but maybe a cake and punch for the residents? Maybe buy Mom a corsage and hope she doesn't eat it! YIKES! Okay, maybe NOT that but get those brain cells in gear and let's think about this. Okay, love to all, Judy

Ok, today is Mon and I went to see Mom and Dad today. Mom was SOOOO clean, but she slept the whole time. She was sitting in the dining room. I laughed because I'd shake her and say Mom don't you want to talk to me or see Macie? One time she goes: I'm thinking! LOL! Dad was confused today. He was looking for everyone. When I started telling him where everyone lived, he goes: Oh, they're really scattered out. He also said that he didn't know what to do. He said they'd been talking about going home for a couple of days and then coming back. He said: there's probably no use in that though, is it? I said probably not. Anyway, he did talk to Macie and said she likes her grandpa. She was so sweet and just smiled and smiled at him. I talked to Nikki about Mom and the Seraquel (sp?). She said Mom had been awake all morning and that she (Nikki) didn't think Mom had even taken a nap this morning. I asked about Dad and the antibiotic he was taking for the infection in his lung. She said he was finished with that med and seemed to be doing fine. She did say that most of Mom's shirts had stains on them. I'm sure. I'll try to pick her up some before I go on Wed. I told Judy we could count it as a birthday gift or I can buy them out of her funds. Whatever. Love you all, Jeanie Oh, Annie is now on the shots. She's NOT a happy camper, but that falls in the 'oh, well!' grouping! LOL!

I did call and talked to Nikki about the Seraquil or whatever!lol I told her that we just wanted to try the doubling of that for now and to hold the other medication. We did not want Mom zombied and she said it was not a problem to hold it. Now will that happen???? Who knows. She said Mom was currently eating and Dad was not too happy with the meatloaf today but he was eating some and had eaten a bag of cheetos earlier too. She ate all his breakfast. I asked her about Mom and biting and that none of us knew anything about it except when you feed her. She said she does bite some when she's trying to keep you from dressing her, changing her ect but of course she said that it wasn't malicious and that she just wasn't cognitive enough to know you don't do that. She said that she had bitten a student nurse of some kind who was there training on the breast! Not good Mom!!!lol So we'll see how the coming week goes. Love to all, Judy

Ok, sisters, this is just a quick report. I delivered all the necessary papers to Chad. We'll have to wait and see now what happens next.

On a different note, Debbie called me today from LNC. The psychiatrist came be again today and decided Mom was 'depressed' and prescribed lexapro for her AGAIN! Remember in April when he did this!?! He wants to double her sequeral (sp?) giving it twice a day instead of just once a day as now + add the lexapro. I asked Debbie why? She said Mom had bitten one of the girls and the girl had to get a tetanus shot! She said actually Mom had bitten several girls and punched another! I asked if it was when they were feeding her. She said, no, it's when they're putting her in bed, getting her up, changing her clothes, etc! I haven't heard of any of this lately at all. I told her that we did NOT want Mom zombied out---that there wasn't much communication as it is--and we certainly didn't want less! She said she'd speak to Becky and that I'd probably need to call and talk to Nikki this weekend since Debbie was off this weekend. I will try, but I have company all weekend. Maybe, Judy, you can do that!?! Anyway, I'm not sure where all this will end up with the medication and Mom. Dad, meanwhile, was looking for I-55 the whole time I was talking to Debbie! Good grief! I need a NAP badly! LOL! Love you all, Jeanie OH, Annie started her shots today. She was NOT happy with the one I tried to give her. Hopefully we can work this out! Bless her heart!

Those finances will all work out. We might be giving the $10,000 back but if we do, we do! Bottom line will still be that they're taken care of. I think it sucks that they want the "start" date for us paying private is now instead of Feb, 2010! Hopefully Chad will do his magic and get it all fixed! Love to all, Judy

Ok, sisters, the finances are starting to get messy! DHS has declined Mom and Dad with an additional penalty of 7 MORE months! I took the papers back to Chad (I got them yesterday--they were mailed before Chad had the conference with them!---jerks!) Anyway, he was saying they can't do that---start the penalty when Mom and Dad applied. We'll see. Worse case senerio is that each of you will have to mail me a check each month to pay for their care. I DREAD the mess that this could/would bring, but I figure DHS does whatever DHS wants to do. Anyway, just a heads-up on what might be coming down the pike. They can also take the house after something happens to both of them, too. I'll let you know something when I know something. I wish it was 'easy' and settled, but it obviously is NOT going to go down easily!

On another note, I went to see Mom and Dad today. They were both laying down and were tired. Mom didn't know much of what was going on, but she looked good. Dad was confused--he said they'd been locked in the basement, but he looked good and seemed to be ok. He said something about how cute Jeremy's baby was and her red hair, etc. It wasn't a bad visit, but they were SO sleepy and it made me that way, too! LOL! Ok, Love you all, Jeanie

Dear Daddy,
Happy Birthday to you!! I can't believe you're 91, but then again I can't believe I'm almost 59! I hope you had a great day! I came to see you yesterday, but you and Mother were both asleep and I didn't want to disturb you! The older I get, the more I realize what an awesome husband and father you've been all these years. It couldn't have been easy living in a house full of women! Thank you for being you and I know one day we'll all be together again just like the good old days! I love you, pat

Jeanie and I went to see Mom and Dad today around 8:30 or so and they were GREAT compared to the way they've been lately. We took them chocolate iced doughnuts with sprinkles!lol It was the best we could do for a birthday cake! We did take 3 balloons to tie to Dad's chair too. When we first got there I told Dad Happy Birthday and asked him if he knew how old he was and he said "yeah, 73!"lol I told him no 91! He sad "Sure nough?"lol Mom was in bed but when I went in there her eyes were open and she was smiling and talking about someone being there and then gone and were they ok. I assured her they were and would be back and she was glad.lol She took a little nap then and Jeanie and I visited with Dad and called Jamie for her to talk to him. I know you were so glad to talk to him Jamie and he was good and smiling the whole time. He opened your cards too Jamie and commented on how cute they were. Then Mom woke up and they brought her out to the big area in her chair and she was smiling and laughing and even said a few things that were "with it". She commented on Macie's pink clothes and she had on a pink bib. She took her doughnut and smelled it and said "gosh that smells good" and then she ate the whole thing. Jeanie took picutres on her cell phone and we forwarded them to Jamie and I talked to Ona on the way home and forwarded them to her. Anyone else want them?lol No problem to forward! They were still up and looking brighteyed when we left. Mom's eye wasn't matted either which was nice. Debbie said that her toe had been looking better but she hadn't seen it yet today and would look at it later. Dad had gotten a shower because he commented on it. They both have haircuts and look good. I was so pleased with my visit that I didn't want to press my luck for a bad visit and came on back home! What a wimp!lol All in all a good birthday visit! Love to all, Judy

I went to visit on Sat. and did not have the same visit Jeanie had, unfortunately. Dad was sooo confused, he kept talking about someone had rear ended him and he didn't know what to do. He was so restless in the wheelchair. He talked crazy, said he hadn't seen Mom, etc. Mom, of course, was sound asleep, snoring!lol But she looked good, and Dad did too. I am planning on going back Monday after school, so I hope it's a better visit for all of us. Love, Pam

As Jamie will say "Can I have a whoop, whoop?" LOL I'm SO glad Mom was better. I had about decided that I would wait a week or so to come up since I'm sure Pat,Pam and/or Jeanie would go there on Monday since it's Dad's birthday but I don't want to miss an opportunity to have another "sane" visit with Mom. So I'll go up Sunday and go there on Monday. Hopefully she'll be good that day too! Love to all, Judy

Ok, today is Fri, and I went to see Mom and Dad today. It was THE best visit I've had with them in a LONG time! Mom was in her wheelchair in the large commons area. When I spoke to her and patted her on the back, she said: Hi, Hon! They had cut her hair and I was telling her how good it looked and how cute she was. She goes: It's alright. I told her I'd seen Marie, and she said to watch out for them. She was good! She didn't have that 'look' about her eyes either. No idea why or what was going on, but she was good. While I was talking to her, I heard Dad yelling MARGARET! LOL! I went into their room and he looked so good, too. He was asking where Mom was and that he didn't want her to be alone, etc. He said he was worn out from lunch trying to get her to eat and drink. I mean they were both SOOOOO good! It was awesome! In addition to that, their room was SO clean, both beds had clean linens (Dad was in his, but you could tell they were fresh) and Mom's bed was made so nicely! I was impressed. Mom's shirt was dirty with food from lunch---so was her wheelchair. Obviously lunch had been an ordeal! LOL! I asked Mom how she was doing, and she said she was so tired! When they came to lay her down, they changed her shirt. I asked Debbie about Mom's toe. Debbie said it seemed to be some better and that Mom had actually let Debbie clean and doctor it today without putting up a fight! She was good! I asked about Dad's med for the lung infection, and he has one or two doses left on that. All in all it was a great visit! I was SOOOO glad I'd gone. On another note, I signed a paper today for Chad to talk to Medicaid for Mom and Dad. Michael Smith called me, too, to say that DHS had called him and said that they wouldn't be approved because of some transfer of funds. I was like: that doesn't surprise me, but it frustrates me! Anyway, we'll see how it all goes. We can't control it even if we wanted to. DHS will do exactly what they want to do. Monday's phone conference is just for preliminary info. There'll be another form forthcoming and then probably at least 60 days until we have a good chance of finding anything out. Ok, sisters, for today---the parents are good, clean, happy and aware---you can't ask for much more than that! AMEN and AMEN!!!! Love you all, Jeanie

Tuesday when Mom slept most of the day, Debbie said she thought it was because she didn't feel well---due to the skin tears and the toe. You're not grabbing at rainbows---that was real. As to when does the doc come back, etc. I don't know when he makes rounds there. Debbie did tell me that as AD progresses, they sleep more and more. I'm going back tomorrow to check on them.

On another note, I got the form today from the guy from Wynne---the hardest one. We're to have a phone conference, Mon, Oct 18, 10:00! YIKES! I've got to try to talk to Chad tomorrow. By the time I got my mail today, Chad's office was closed. I'll keep you posted. Love you all, Jeanie

Mom must have hit her toe pretty good to almost knock the nail off! She supposedly did this when? At night sometime when her shoes were off? Did she catch it on the bed? Wow! I'm trying not to be in denial here, but could some of Mom's sleepiness be that she just doesn't feel well because of the infection? And if there's green stuff..that's pretty infected!! I know it's not all of the reason...the disease just progresses and the symptoms/characteristics of it just start to be more the norm...but I guess I'm just looking/hoping for a little something else to hold on to. When does the doctor come back for a visit? I'd like to know his/her thoughts on what's going on with the disease and if this is what we can expect? I like to deal in facts/details...I guess I'm just wanting some answers. I love you all..Jamie

Ok, today is Wed and I went to see Mom and Dad at lunch time. Dad was pretty good, really. He said a few off the wall things and tried to stand up about 4 or 5 times, but he had eaten and was ready for a chew. They also came to get him for his haircut. I told him they were going to make him beautiful and he kept telling the aids there that! LOL! He was ok. Mom was just Mom. God love her, she's just not good. The one girl passed me in the hall as I was going in and said your Mom is a hoot today. I thought--GOOD! Well, she didn't act like much of a hoot at lunch. In fact she never acknowledged me, but this one aid said something to her and Mom goes: hi sweetheart or hi precious--something that made sense! I fed her nearly all of her lunch. I left a little of the meat because I can't believe she can chew it, but she does. The lady in charge of cleaning told me she wanted to apologize to me for the way their room looked the other day. She said she'd gone down there this morning to check it herself. It was clean, too. She said she'd gotten on to the people that work there because she said it was food on the floor where they don't wipe the food off them before bringing them back to their rooms. Anyway, they did the protein test on Mom because of her wounds. Her toe, according to Nikki, is bad. She said it's like the nail is fixing to come off and there was green stuff there. They're giving her the antibiotic + she's keeping triple antibiotic ointment on it and keeping it covered so Mom can't hit it. Anyway, all's about the same, really. Mom is just not good. There's no other way to describe her, but she must have times where she's more animated than others---if that girl was right today about the 'hoot' part! LOL! OK, Love you all, Jeanie

I hate all of this about Mom because isn't that one of the end stage signs where they sleep all the time? I'm pretty sure it is. She was so out of it on Monday that I was hoping she was just tired but that might not be the case. Bless her little heart. She's just pitiful. Love to all, Judy

Ok, I hope I don't forget any of this! LNC called me this morning at about 20 till 7 to tell me Mom had a new skin tear. Debbie called me just a little bit ago (about 7:10) to tell me they'd ordered an antibiotic for Mom--2 reasons: the skin tear and she has a red place near the cuticle on her big toe (they noticed this when they gave her a shower this morning). I said: like an ingrown toenail kind of place? Debbie said: no, like she'd hit it or bumped it or something along those lines. She also said they'd ordered a protein test on Mom for tomorrow. Why? To see if she's getting enough protein. Mom didn't eat much today---spent most of the day in bed sleeping---Debbie said Mom didn't really act like she felt that good today. I asked about the appetite stimulant as in 'does Mom need it' to make sure she eats. When Judy and I were there Mon, Mom had eaten 50% of breakfast. I didn't ask about the other two meals yesterday, but she hasn't had much today. Debbie told me to talk to Nikki about it tomorrow when I'm down there. They've also ordered Dad's metabolic tests. They do these every so often to just check on him with the insulin, etc. Anyway, she said that they were both doing ok. Dad was up with his chewing tobacco and sitting there in his wheelchair---Mom of course was in bed sleeping. Tomorrow I'll go back down to check on them and see how Mom is and if she's eaten. Ok, I think that's it. Love you all, Jeanie

Ok, sisters, you're all right. We had a REALLY hard decision to make back in Feb and tried to do the best we could by them. Is the nursing home a great solution? Absolutely not! Is it sometimes a necessary solution? Absolutely yes! We were heading for a MAJOR disaster with them at home. HOW they managed to escape serious injury for so long amazes me even today. Would Mom be different today IF they had continued to stay at home? I don't think so. I told Judy that some of the changes in Mom would have happened regardless---her eyes---the general look and change in them is very pronounced, the grinding/gritting of her teeth, her deciding that she couldn't walk because her leg hurt, her mental state----those things have nothing to do with where she is, but have everything to do with AD. Dad? I'm not sure Dad is unhappy either. I'm not saying he's happy like he was happy years ago, but I guess I don't think he's so dissatisfied that he's unhappy. They NEED 24 hour care. They NEED it. There's no way they can take care of themselves. No way at all! They haven't been able to do this for a long time. It's funny, today Judy asked Dad about playing bingo or checkers. He said: I can't sit still long enough. That's not a misery answer. Dad is always looking, watching, something. We just have to try to do the best we can for them. If there's anything little or big that will make life there better for them---then we need to look into doing that, etc. If something isn't good---we need to mention it. Ask questions about thing, do whatever it takes to be their advocate like they were ours when we were younger.

Ok, on a different note, Debbie called me tonight to tell me they'd gotten the results of the second x-ray to check Dad's lungs. She said it still showed some infection in the lower lobe of his left lung (I'm pretty sure it was left and not right! Sorry! LOL!) Anyway, they were going to start him on another antibiotic. I asked about fever, anything. She said no and nothing! That's so weird. Ok, sisters, I love you all and am proud to call you my sisters. Jeanie

Oh I forgot to mention that I asked Debbie if Mom had been awake any today since she was already back asleep and Debbie said that Mom had been up and out in the hallway at 5:30! She said she had eaten 50% of her breakfast and drank all he liquids. Dad had eaten 100% she said. Also their floor was dirty! Jeanie told Debbie and she said that she would tell "Judy" to get it swept and mopped. Would they have done this eventually anyway?? NO clue! Another reason to visit as often as possible. Oh and Dad found his watch or someone turned it in or whatever! He had it on and he was so glad he said! I don't think the time was right but evidently he didn't know the difference!LOL Love to all, Judy

Amen to all the comments by you Jamie and Pam too. It IS so hard but it was the only thing we could do and even today I feel it was the best decision we could have ever made. When Jeanie and I visited today, I didn't think Dad was any worse or better than before I left for Alaska. His speech was a little slurry and hard to understand but when we got there he was sitting in his wheelchair chewing his tobacco. He had commented to us that it was shower day and even though he hates it, he was laughing about them stripping you off and it was cold in there. Jeanie and I took him outside though and he seems to love it there. The staff had brought out a couple of other people and they were talking sweet to them like I hope they do to Dad when we're not around. I made the comment about everyone seemed nice and Dad said "oh they are really nice" and I truly don't think Dad hates it there at all! He made the comment about them coming in and giving him shots and he just holds out his arm and lets them. We were laughing that hopefully they knew what they were doing and giving shots to the right person. Dad was laughing about it too. Now Mom was a whole different story! When we got there, their door was shut but we heard people in there with Mom so we went to talk to Dad first. When they came out, Jeanie and I went in and Mom was already in bed! It was like 8:15 or 8:30! Jeanie tried to talk to her but she had her eyes only half open and was gritting her teeth together with that same exact look she had when she chewed me out that time Jeanie and I woke her up! Jeanie touched her or something once and she said stop or don't or something along those lines. We just let her sleep and kept checking on her but she was snoozing big time. I never got to talk to her or even see her awake. When she was laying there in her bed with the pads all around her, I realized that our Mother is gone and won't return I don't think except for a couple of moments here and there. The difference in her today and the last time I saw her before leaving for Alaska was huge. Maybe it was because she was sleeping for sure but I don't think that's all it is. She's slipping further and further away at a rapid rate as far as I can tell. I told Leisa today that Mom and I were as close and she and I are and to think about how hard it would be. It's totally heartbreaking! But it would be like this regardless of whether we had put them in LNC or left them at home! None of this is related to that I don't think. Mom has gone down so fast in the last year and it's a train wreck that can't be stopped! I wish there were a way to get her back for one more visit where I felt she truly knew me but I don't see it happening. I hope I'm wrong. We all just love them so much and we were/are so blessed to have had them as our parents. They did an awesome job and set a great example for us as parents. Who could ask for more than that. Love to you all, Judy

Pam I'm so sorry your visit was so hard...it's just a sucky situation all around..a nursing home, no matter how great, how expensive, how wonderful the staff, how beautiful the building, is still a nursing home and will never be the same as being in your home living an independent life. You were right in confronting LNC with issues you found unacceptable...that is our job and our obligation to Mom and Dad to speak for them when they can't as Jeanie said. Mom and Dad are the lucky residents because you all check on them almost daily...can you imagine what life is like for those whose families plant them there and then don't show up again?...those are the truly sad ones. I do hate it for Dad...you're right Pat, this is a pitiful way to live out your life. Dad could probably live outside LNC with one of us, but he would never leave Mom. And taking on the responsibility of Dad in your home, even though he's so much better than Mom, would still be a full time commitment...you could not go off for the weekend or even overnight and leave him, someone would still need to be with him 24-7, cooking, keeping him clean, medications, etc. I know it's hard seeing them like this, where they are and how things are, but someday, if we live long enough, we'll be in the same situation and our children will be dealing with these same struggles. (Well mine won't, they've basically said once I start to step off the edge, I'm out of here...do not pass go, do not collect $200) The bottom line is we were at a major crossroad with them...they couldn't stay at home anymore, living in filthy, unsafe circumstances...we tried to keep them at home with Dorothy's help, but it became clear that wasn't enough...I think when we cleaned out that house it became even clearer! We were faced with a choice on how to keep them safe and what was best for them...and best for us as well...we made the only decision we could...and we can't feel guilty about that decision. Maybe being in Jonesboro would be better as far as convenience, but a nursing home is a nursing home bottom line. We just have to continue to let LNC know when there's a problem we want fixed, visit whenever we can, try to give a little extra attention and conversation to Dad and by all means, pray...for them and for us. I love you all......Jamie

Dad was ok today. He just looked soooo tired. Cary and I talked with him, and Cary thought he was so much better than the last time she saw him. He didn't mumble or say anything crazy. But he just looked like he could barely hold his eyes open. He said Mom keeps him awake. He's misplaced his watch and Nikki said they're looking for it. Anyway, I went in to check on Mom, and I lost it. Her shirt was so dirty, and her linens looked filthy and worn out. It was the first time I thought this is unacceptable and she's going home with me! Nikki walked in, and I told her, and she said I was right, and they should have changed her shirt. She told me about them not being able to use bleach, but she agreed with me about the linens, and when they get to looking that bad, they should be trashed. I'm telling you, it was so pitiful. That's our Mom and it was just so sad. I'm tearing up thinking about it. Jeanie's right, we've got to stand up for them. I was convicted again today that I've got to go over there more often. My life is so hectic right now, but so is everyone else's but they need us to check on them. I know there is nothing else we can do right now, but it just hurts so much. Dad is so precious and always acts like he doesn't want me to leave. Pat is right, and that it has to be so hard on him, but I know he would not want to leave Mom. We just have to keep them in our prayers. I hope when we're not around that they are caring for them like we think and hope they are. Lord help us!!!

Jamie, Annie can't have a bath because of her surgery---she had stones in her bladder. She wasn't suppose to get that area wet for 7 days---hence Wed is the magic day! Bless her heart! I can NOT believe that WalMart's site crashed on you again! I'd have had a heart attack the second time! YIKES! That is horrible and SOOOO frustrating! I am going to TRY to send mine out to you this week! I told Pam to come by for hers, and Pat I have your bag of pics, too! I've had these done for weeks. I've been waiting on myself to divide the originals of those papers that were left! I'm not really sure anyone would actually want most of these. I'll do that and then mail them out.

Pat, as for Mom and Dad's situation---it is sad and horrible and so pitiful, BUT (and it's a big but) I don't know what the answer is! I wish they were here in Jonesboro---that would mean I could go most every day for some time. There's just not a good answer. Our job right now is to make sure they get the best care we can. THAT's why we need to go and speak up if something isn't like we want or think it should be. We ARE their voice---basically the only one they have. I do think that some of the people are really good/nice to Dad, especially. I think they are to Mom, too, but you can't really do a lot with Mom. Dad you can. I don't think he just sits all day with noone talking to him, etc. That part is good. We just have to do the very best we can to help them all we can. That's our mission and our job and our obligation to/for them. Love you all, Jeanie

Jerry and I went to see Mom and Dad today. They were already in the cafeteria when we arrived. Mother was slumped over in her wheelchair sleeping and mumbling. Dad was eating on a bag of potato chips. Of course, their food was no where near arriving which drives me crazy. I got Dad some coffee and he seemed okay. He knew who I was and was fairly alert. Nikki had cut and soaked his fingernails and they looked so good. Pam called me later this afternoon after she had also been to visit and she was very upset. She will post about her visit I'm sure. The problem is that there is nothing that we can really do to help their situation except visit as often as we can. I also hate the whole nursing home scene, but there just isn't another alternative. Dad is the one to be pitied. I know his life must be SO boring and dull there. I always think about how much he loved sitting on the porch and drinking coffee and just being out in the yard and it's just so sad. I also think about how much worse they are today than when we took them there that first day. There's a big world of difference between them then and now and it's not good differences. I sometimes think about when we took them that day and how they had no idea that they would never be home again and it's really hard. They are just so sad and like Pam said, it's just not a good way to end your life. Well, I guess I'd better go take my shower before I get really depressed! Anyway, love you all, pat

I would think personal property insurance alone for Mandy and Sammie would be relatively affordable...as I said we pay $500 a month, but that covers 3 vehicles and $250,000 of personal property...I think our personal property is only like $25 or $30 of that!! Why can Annie not have a bath? That's got to be killing you...:) I love the smell of a stinky dog!!:) NOT!! Judy, I hope your visit goes well...take some pics if you can! Jeanie, I'm going to put Dad a birthday card in the mail to your house..Any thing I can send him? Maybe I'll try and get some pics printed out of my boys also! Speaking of pics, did I tell you that the scanner at Walmart died again after 200 photos and I still have no CDs? I'm going to try again this week, but I'm not going to Walmart...3 times is a charm and I've learned my lesson!! I'm actually going to a camera place...it'll be more expensive, but at least I'll get it done...hopefully...without it crashing!! Very frustrating!! Keep those posts a comin'.....Love you, Jamie

Mandy and Sammie would have to buy some renters insurance for their personel items. Bob Haun didn't act like it would be very much. I don't think it would be anywhere near as expense as the $500 you pay, Jamie. I also know what you mean about the value of the house! Not being ugly, but I was like: the house isn't worth anywhere NEAR $156,000! I at first said $85,000---being nice! I finally changed it to $100,000 just because he kept saying: could you rebuild it for $85,000! Anyway, the $600 insurance makes more sense, especially when we can't keep the one we have! LOL! As for the appetite stimulant and Mom's with-it-ness------trust me on this, she EATS! I mean, she cleaned her plate today + a big piece of pie and 2 cups of ice cream! She WAYYYYYYY out ate Dad at lunch! She fed herself a lot of lunch today and said a couple of things today that made sense! She asked if I wanted some, said 'good' when I fed her ice cream, and told me to 'not hit her back so hard' when I patted on her! LOL! Dad was better, not awesome, but definitely better. IF I can remember, I'll ask Debbie about the med and alertness----you never know! Mom's nose was running today---I mentioned it to Debbie and she was going to keep watch on it. I also made them both appointments to get haircuts next week. I told Dad I was going to do this and he said the guy in Jonesboro always did a good job on his hair. I told him Pat had cut it for a long time---she did and did a great job!

Annie seems to be doing ok. She's sleeping and eating and drinking like normal---not way out of the norm as before! She needs a bath and haircut SOOOOO badly! She can't have a bath until WEDNESDAY!!!!!!!!!!! We'll all stink by then! LOL! OH! Bruce and I went to see Secretariat tonight--------AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!! Highly recommend! Love you all, Jeanie

That insurance coverage sounds awesome to me! I say GO for it! What will we do next year when they only have that $40 each that can be held out? I think that $40 is for tobacco,shoes, etc isn't it? Maybe they have enough in that one from their sale to last a year or two? Just curious! I'll be up sunday and visit them on Monday along with Jeanie. I'll report when I do. Jeanie was on her way their when I talked to her an hour or so ago. She'll post later. Love to all, Judy

I think $600 sounds better $800+ when is comes to insurance...is that house valued at $100,000? I don't want to sound ugly, but I wouldn't think so, but I don't know anything about Jonesboro real-estate costs. And then Mandy would need to carry personal property insurance on their belongings? Insurance is outrageous!! We pay almost $500 a month for car and personal property..and that's through a military based company!! As far as what we could do for Ona, I don't really know...she'd probably like some company I figure, but don't really know what we could send her...does she need another gift card to WalMart? or to a restaurant? or a movie theatre for a few hours break? I'm good with anything we decide! What she'd like is life to go back to normal of course, but unfortunately, that we can't give. I'd be interested to know what they say the correlation is, if any on appetite stimulant and Mom's alertness..maybe it's a positive side effect that no ones documented. WOW if that's the case, huh? Jeanie, I hope Annie is doing good today...I know you worry... Glad to hear that maybe the medicaid/care issue is getting closer to being straightened out...what a mess for sure!! Chad is earning his bucks on this one!! Hope all is well with everyone...We continue to be busy on this end..Jerry and I have a formal tonight in Tacoma, Jason a golf match up beyond Seattle and Jerome is home trying to recover from a sinus infection and some upper respiratory trouble...they put him on an albuterol inhaler to try and open his lungs..yuk! Love and miss everyone.....Jamie

Ok, I just got off the phone with Bob Haun, the house insurance agent. He said the underwriters said that the insurance needed to be changed since Mom and Dad were not living there. I have to tell you that basically I HATE insurance agents--sorry, but I think they're all scum playing on people's fears for money! Just me, but that's my feelings. Anyway, bottom line is this: right now Mom and Dad have $156,000 coverage on that house! INSANE! Plus contents, etc. Their premium is like $829 every 6 months! Outrageous! IF we change it to a policy that is NOT owner occupied, we can get $100,000 coverage on the house, $100,000 liability, NO contents coverage, $1,000 deductible for $603 PER YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!! I told him I'd have to run it all by you all first. This would give Mandy and Sammie no coverage on their stuff + no personal liability. They'd have to buy this on a separate policy! Sounds good to me. What do you all think? Questions? Concerns? Speak to me!! Love you all, Jeanie

Oh, Annie was 7 the end of June! Sorry! I nearly got them all! LOL! Love you all, Jeanie

Ok, Jamie, here are answers. We sent the card probably in Augus; yes, you did pay; that's an interesting idea that the appetite stimulant might affect Mom in a good way---I'll ask about that; Annie's still not having to take shots---yet---they say it will come; we can send Ona another card or whatever else you'd like to do. If I missed some---chalk it up to age! LOL!

On another note, I went to see Chad AGAIN today! He's really nice. We filled out the forms for Medicaid, and now it's wait and see. By law they're suppose to give an answer in 45 days. Probably for us at least 90 days prehaps even 6 months! I'll get a form from one of two people---one here in Jonesboro and the other in Wynne or Forrest City---not the one we'd want. Anyway, I'm to call Chad and he's going to help me. In the meantime, I'm to pay Michael all of Mom's and Dad's income minus the amount of their AARP + Humana + $40 they're each allowed to keep. I'll do that tomorrow and tell Michael that we've applied for Medicaid. SOOOOOOOO, we're still in a holding pattern with a wait and see kicker! At least it's started. I am SO ready to get through this part and everything kind of settle down! Ok, I'm off to eat a bite and walk Annie a little. Love you all, Jeanie

Jeanie will have to answer about did you pay, cause I only can speak for myself in that I did!lol I don't know anything we could do for Ona really other than visit and Jeanie and I both want to go but just not sure how/when with Annie being sick and maybe needing shots. I could go alone but don't really want to drive 11 hours there and back by myself or I could fly there alone but I'd need to change planes and then Ona would have to come pick me up and where would I stay, etc, etc. I hate that she's so far away and we can't just drive over for a day and then back but he's where he will be for a while I'm sure. It's the start of week 10 as of Monday and she hasn't even been back home she said. Do you read the nightly notes Denita posts? They are really uplifting for the most part and at least you can see where he is as far as progress. Jeanie went to talk to Chad today about the Medicaid enrollment process and the ball has started rolling!lol She'll post all of that I'm sure. Okay, that's all I know from Hot Springs. I'll post about my next visit after I have it!lol Love to all, Judy

When Mom was on the appetite stimulant was she more alert and with it than she is now without being on it? It just seems like she was having more "good" days when she was on the stimulant than she is now...or am I totally wrong in my remembering? Poor Daddy...I hate when he does that mumbling thing and sounds so garbled..like he needs to spit really bad or clear his throat. I'm sure when he's tired, it's worse, that makes sense, but when he starts talking weird stuff, being tired doesn't seem to be a good explanation for that...but that's just me! Jeanie I'm glad to hear Annie came through her surgery fine..that's so scary...for both of you!! Schnauzers tend to have kidney/bladder/sugar issues..Baron did as well when he got a little older. How old is Annie now? Judy sorry to hear Ona is struggling with things...I can only imagine how she must feel...and yes, I figure Mondays must be tough for her...Is there something else we could send her or get for her that might help? When did we do the gift card? And did I pay for my part of it? I swear, sometimes I scare me!! Keep those posts a comin'!! Love you all, Jamie

Ok, today is Tues and I went to see Mom and Dad today. They were in the dining room waiting for lunch. They had coffee to drink and were calm. In fact Mom was asleep as were 90% of the people in that room! How weird is that!?! Anyway, Dad was trying to get Mom to sit up/wake up. He was talking with that slurry not making good sense voice! It took me a while before I could decipher what he was saying. He was looking for Jamie and Brittney! He kept saying where are they and they should be here by now, etc. I told him all the kids were grown and married and at work or school! LOL! Anyway, one of the aids told me that he probably would not be hungry. She'd fed him chips and salsa all morning. It was so sweet. She said everytime she ordered Mexican food she'd gotten to where she ordered Dad a bag of chips by himself. She said he'd sit around with them and eat. It was really cute. She said sometimes they make tuna sandwiches and fix it like a little picnic for just the two of them. I think they really do try. Anyway, Dad didn't eat everything on his plate---probably about 1/2. He did eat all his cake and some of Mom's cookies! LOL! My kind of eating---save room for that dessert! Mom, on the other hand, never really knew I was there. I fed her nearly everything she had for lunch. She was leaning in her wheelchair and had a hard time drinking (I got a straw) and even when she picked up a cookie, she couldn't seem to hold it nor get it to her mouth right. I mentioned this to Debbie and she said that Mom was eating REALLY good still! She said Mom had cleaned her plate yesterday at breakfast and lunch. I asked about Dad's appetite, and she said he was eating really good, too. I asked about the pneumonia, and she said he'd finished his meds. They're going to order another chest x-ray to be sure it's ok, but she said he seemed ok. She said Mom was sitting up at breakfast. I really do think they were both tired at lunch. Dad told me after lunch that he was worn out. Anyway, to me they were worse than they were about 10 days ago. Of course it was lunch time and they were tired. I asked Debbie if she thought Mom was worse. She said that Mom was sleeping more--they both would sleep more. She did say she thought Mom had gone down some. I don't know. Mom seems really 'away', but at the same time, Debbie told me they got into an argument over a cookie at lunch yesterday. I don't know. Mom is just bad. I asked about Dad's confusion and Debbie said it comes and goes. She said he was worse when he was tired. That's true. Anyway it was not a wonderful visit, but I did feed Mom and talked some to Dad with some sense. He did say 'you don't have to go, and be careful going home' when I left. I've got to schedule them both for haircuts again, too. Ok, that's it. Annie did fine today and when I called later this afternoon again, they said she was doing great. I'll pick her up after lunch tomorrow. They got all the stones out of her bladder. We'll see how this goes, too! Love you all, Jeanie

Poor Annie! I guess I missed your post last night since I talked to you to find out all the information instead of reading it. Good aren't I??? NOT! I did talk to Ona today and she was little down. Randall is still coughing up a lot of gunk and they have ordered a chest x-ray for today to make sure he doesn't have an infection. Ona was crying about it but she said that the people at this new place have been awesome and encouraging and told her that she didn't have to worry about it because they could handle anything he would need. She said Mondays were always hard and it was again yesterday. She hates them because he fell on a Monday and also because everyone leaves and she's there alone. I want us to sit down when I come up and try to decide about going out there. I have a need to do that! Jeanie I know you're at the nursing home now and look forward to your post tonight. I know you told me that Mom was okay and was asleep in her chair but I got the feeling Dad is a little confused still by the comments you made. Obviously not bad though since you were laughing. Hopefully he's ok too. Love to all, Judy

This is an update on Annie and not Mom and Dad! FINALLY we got to get her today. It's a weird situation. They are not sure exactly what IS going on. She did/does have a UTI--(like Dad!)LOL!, BUT---and this is a BIG but!----her blood sugar has gone from a high of 426 on Sat when I took her in to around 160 WITHOUT insulin for the last 5 or 6 days! The doc doesn't know what is going on. He said he is SURE that she WILL be on insulin at some point, but right now it is more dangerous to have her on it than not---low sugar kills quickly, high sugar kills over a long time! In addition to that whatever it is, she has stones in her bladder---like kidney stones, but in the bladder and not the kidney. SOOOOO tomorrow she has surgery to remove those stones because he is still finding blood in her urine which he said is coming from the stones. He's going to remove them tomorrow, she'll continue on her antibiotic, and then he'll see how she does. He doesn't think that she has a tumor on her pancreas because that usually causes high insulin production and not low insulin production. He said she has both of them (there are two docs in this office) baffled---but they're going to keep looking for the answer. When she still had the UTI after taking the antibiotic for over a week, they x-ray'd her and that's when they found the stones. What a mess! We brought her home tonight and the first thing she did was drink an entire bowl of water, go outside and pee, and come back in and drink over half another bowl of water. I then walked her and she peed several times ---not unusual, but then about an hour later she had to go out and peed a ton! (This is what she was doing that made me know she wasn't right a week ago Sat.) Since then she's acted normal! Go figure! Bless her heart. She hates her medicine, so that's going to be fun to give her for ????? Anyway, I'll post how she did tomorrow after her surgery. Love you all, Jeanie

Weirdo, I meant HOMER LAUGHLIN was at fault for me buying dishes---not Bruce! LOL! That is too funny! Bruce does like them and did pay for them, but I doubt he would drag me in to buy! Too funny! I'll check on Mom and Dad tomorrow. I had Macie today---she's getting so big! She's such a sweet natured baby. Ok, Love you all, Jeanie

Talk about burying your head in the sand!~! Jeanie blaming BRUCE for her Homer Laughlin dishes??? Good try Jeanie but I know better!!!LOL I hate Dad having to wear the bracelet like I mentioned to you earlier today Jeanie but not as bad as I hate the thought of him walking off! Good Grief!!! This whole thing does suck for sure but I have to keep reminding myself of where they COULD be--home alone!!! Even suckier!! Keep those posts coming! Love to all, Judy

Jamie, you're so sweet about Annie, too! She loves all the sisters and is such a sweet little dog. She DOES love to eat! LOL! We went last night to bring her home, but since she was there for medical and not just boarding reasons, they wouldn't let us. She was SOOOOOOOOO happy to see Bruc, Maggie and me. She just licked and licked on us. She's definitely lost weight this week, but other than that she looked good.

I talked to Nikki last night. She called and said that Mom had new skin tears on BOTH elbows. She thinks it's from her moving around in the bed and wrestling with the aids when they're trying to get her up. Dad, she said, tried to get out twice yesterday! They put one of the bracelets on his ankle, too. I told her absolutely that I wanted it! I do NOT want him to get out! Nightmare! I asked about Dad's seemingly bad week of confusion, etc. She said that with a UTI that is one of the first symptoms they see. He finished his medicine yesterday. She said he had a bad time for just a short time yesterday, but then he was ok. She said Wed and Fri he'd been fine, too. She'd given him tobacco thinking it was that, but it wasn't. She said they got him to laughing and took him outside to hangout there with them and he was ok. I won't go today----they're bringing me Macie at about 8:00, but I'll go tomorrow. Nothing was said about the pneumonia---me included---I didn't ask because I guess I've been mostly concerned with his mental state this week.

Ok, I've got to shower and get dressed and put a few more things away. Bruce and I had such a good time!!!! We came back with a lot of treasures! LOL! Homer Laughlin draws me in!!!!!! LOL! It's HIS fault that I buy! LOL!

Ok, Jamie, keep those nerves under control! We'd love to have you closer!!!!!! Love you all, Jeanie

Hello Sisters,
Once again I'm apologizing for being out of the loop for awhile. Just life and not enough hours in the day...plus I've been sick with a stomach thing...probably nerves...hopefully I'll have some news of some kind to share in the not so distant future!! Thanks for all the great posts and news on Mom and Dad...I'm so hoping we are closer to Jonesboro sooner rather than later so I can start pulling my share!! I hate that they've taken Mom off of the appetite stimulant..sounds like it was working great! Have they said anything about putting Dad on it for awhile? So Dad is now over his pneumonia and infection? Glad they were watching out for that! All of this just sucks...I'd like to bury my head about a lot of it, but you're right Jeanie...you've got to just take it for what it is, not what was or even should be! Again, I'll be happy to be closer...
Jeanie, I'm so sorry to hear about Annie...I love that dog and she loves people food..I hope her life doesn't have to change too much! Hey one good thing about the shots...you're a pro at it already...doesn't make it easier, I know, but at least you've had experience already. I'll say a prayer for both of you!:) Judy, glad you're home!! I know you had a great time...can't believe how much Logan has changed just since I saw him this Summer! I know it's hard leaving them...here's hoping the little Cheatwoods move closer to home soon as well!! Thanks for all ya'll are doing everyday for Mom and Dad....I love you, Jamie

Yeah I don't like Dad not being himself for a week either. That worries me! Mom I know has gone down so much in the last few months when I think about where she was even when she went in down there to where she is now is HUGE!! I guess she'll never know any of us ever again and that makes me soooooo sad!!! I think we look familiar but that's not the same as knowing we are her daughters, our names and even maybe what a daughter is! On a good note, I'm home!!! I had a great time and I'm so glad I went but I do love my house! I'll come to Jonesboro as soon as I can but I have a hair appt on Wed, sewing group at church Wed afternoon, I work Friday morning and then Friday afternoon I have my appt to get my picture taken for our church directory. Gee there is always something it seems like anymore! I'll come this coming weekend probably though and will post when I do. I know Jeanie will be home tomorrow and she told me today that she would go Monday if she doesn't have to babysit Maggie but will Tuesday if she does. Love to all and thanks for the posts! Judy

I know what you mean about the eating thing with Mom, Pat. I like for her to eat! Not eating is NOT good! She definitely has gained some weight, but she tries to eat EVERYTHING! That can't be good. We'll just have to watch and see how she does. She's really not good right now. I understand that about Mom. What worries me is Dad. That's kind of all week he's been 'confused and not good'. That is not like Dad. He has his moments of confusion, but it's not all the time. Good job on going. I'm late and have to run! Love you all, Jeanie

Jerry and I went to see Mom and Dad today. By the time I got off work at noon and drove down there, they were ending up their lunch. A guy was feeding Mother, but she did not want to eat. She kept chewing on her bib and fingers. It was very depressing! I missed a call from the nursing home yesterday about a change in Mom's medications, so I asked Debbie today what it was. Well, the Dr. has taken her off of the appetite stimulant. I asked her if it was because Mother had gained weight and she said she thought it was because she was doing a lot better. Well, I figure without the med. she's going to stop eating again. Today at lunch, she hardly ate a thing. One of the girls said that she had eaten all of her breakfast and had a sandwich for snack, so I guess maybe she just wasn't hungry. That worries me, though, because I like the fact that she eats. Dad was not very good today, either. He was pretty confused and didn't act just right. Debbie said his sugar had been good and that he had taken a long nap before lunch. I'm like Pam - I hate the mealtime part. It's horrible in there - as much as I like to eat, I'd have a hard time eating in that situation. I guess you get used to it. Anyway, a pretty depressing visit, but like Pam said at least they are fed and clean. Okay, love you all, pat p.s. Tell Annie, I hope she feels better!

Pam, if there are no finger foods, ask. Her menu always says finger foods and ice cream. I asked the one day, and they brought her a turkey and cheese sandwich. She does make a terrible mess, but it's because she has no idea of where and what things are for or what to do! Hey, she IS eating though because she's not that tiny anymore! LOL! Good job on the going and posting. It makes me feel better being able to get on here and read about them! Judy, be careful on your trip home tonight! Love you all, Jeanie

I went yesterday, Thurs., to see Mom and Dad again. I didn't get to leave here until Jim got off the bus, which puts me over there at dinner time, which I hate, but their trays were brought quickly, so it turned out ok. Dad was very confused, said something about Mom hadn't taken her medicine for the day. They didn't eat much, which I don't blame them, because it did not look good at all. I thought Mom was suppose to have finger food? She makes the biggest mess. She is so out of it one minute, and then just comes out with something that makes so much sense. It's crazy! Anyway, they were ok, not great, but they are alive, fed and taken care of. I got Dad some tobacco before I left, which makes him happy. Hope you all are well and happy too. Love, Pam

I am so sorry about Annie and the diabetes but if there was ever a dog that was going to get great care, it's Annie. I know you and Bruce will do everything you can for her and she'll be fine! The North Pole was good but Santa wasn't there. He was on vacation!lol I think I'm a couple weeks late coming this year because it was only beautiful with the orange/yellow trees for about a day. I haven't seen the Northern Lights this year either which are fabulous! I hope Mom and Dad are doing ok. I will check on them as soon as I'm home. Love to all, Judy