Okay, hopefully I can type this morning. Jeanie you've done such a great job with all of this stuff with Mom and Dad. I agree with the DNR oorders..I'm sure we all hope that when the time comes it will be peaceful. I feel like the other would be so awful for everyone.

I agree with you, Judy about the DNR and Jeanie. Jeanie has the burden of a lot of this "red tape" that has to be done. She and I will meet with Chad Monday at 4:00 and maybe we'll find some answers. Jerry and I will be going to the Mother's Day Tea tomorrow at LNC between 2:00 and 4:00 so I'll report my findings sometime tomorrow. love you all, pat

well I know you know my vote is FOR DNR orders because as previously mentioned on here, CPR, chest compressions and trying to bring one of them back is horrible according to Leisa and Jody. I want them to go when God is ready for them, with nothing but peace and no pain. That's my prayer now and has always been. So my vote is yes is you're keeping a tally. I'll be up to see Mom on Sunday and will report after my visit. Keep up the good work Jeanie because we couldn't do all of this stuff with Mom and Dad, LNC and their finances without you. I am so thankful we have you! Love to all, Judy

Ok, my secretary hasn't posted for me today, so here goes! LOL! I went down to see Mom and Dad today and to attend a meeting about them at LNC. Dad was standing up and trying to type in a code to get out the back door when I rounded the corner. The patio out there is really big and was so pleasant today! I took them out there and then left for the meeting and then took them back out there again! I also took Dad a big bag of tobacco. They give him some in a cup + a clean cup. For some unknown reason, he spits into the cup of tobacco and NOT into the clean cup. I kept telling him today to use the other cup, and he finally said he didn't know how he'd chewed all this time without me! I cracked up! Anyway, Dad said a lot of things today that didn't make sense. He was trying to get to Charleston when he was trying to get out the door. Then he kept saying something about dogs in the basement and something that would lift him up on the roof---lots of stuff. He was tired and fell asleep in his chair the second time I took him outside. Mom kept falling asleep, too. The meeting was about their general progress. Dad is not taking any kind of drugs that would mess with his thinking. In general there wasn't much to say about him. He's lost 8 pounds since he has been there, but he eats a lot! They all said the thing about him eating his and Mom's! Dad will continue on therapy for about 2 or 3 more weeks. Right now Medicare is scheduled to pay for him through May 26. That can change to less or more time. Mom's report wasn't bad either. They're going to start giving her a supplement that she can drink for extra calories, etc. She's getting the seraquel at night because her 'sundowners' in worse late afternoon/night. She has the skin tears that they're treating. She is a little hoarse and coughing some, but seemed fine. One of the cafeteria workers came out on the patio when we were out there. She said that Mom and Dad were her favorite people there! She just talked to them and gave Mom a hug, etc. She said Mom called her her angel. She said it made her feel good. She was sweet. Anyway, I asked in general how they all thought that Mom and Dad were doing, and they said ok. I asked about Dad mentioning going home---they all said they'd never heard him say anything about it. They said Mom was always looking for J.R.! Anyway, they were both fixing to lay down for a nap when I left. The meeting did have one question I couldn't answer. They wanted to know about the CPR order and if we wanted it changed. I asked what their DNR order was exactly. Becky said that if they went in and they were in distress but were breathing and had a pulse, then they called the doc, me, the hospital----they did everything they could. If they went in and there was no breathing and no pulse, then they didn't do CPR, etc to try to bring them back. I need to know EVERYONE's opinion on this. IF you have ANY questions, CALL the nursing home and ASK anything. If we decide to put the DNR orders on file, then I have paper work that has to be filled out. I told them that that was a decision that the 6 of us would have to make before I did anything. They were not putting any pressure on me to do it, it was a question about our wishes only. Ok, now I know why I don't do this often! LOL! Tomorrow they're having a Mother's Dad reception from 2 to 4. I'm going to try to go and so is Pat. Love you all, Jeanie

I'm adding this note as Jeanie's secretary! I figure if she has the time to go visit with Mom and Dad that I can make the time to post her note! LOL She said that Mom was in bed and she didn't get to talk to her. The nursing staff said that they had started Mom on an antibiodic for an upper respiratory infection. She evidently was coughing but she's not running any temp. They said that when someone in the nursing home starts with a problem in the respiratory line that they start medication to prevent it from getting out of hand. Sounds logical to me. I like that she's not running any temp at least! Dad was doing okay. He seemed to need a nap to Jeanie but of course he told her that he didn't. LOL Dad did eat all of his lunch and then Mom's! They said that Mom pretty much ate nothing. Dad said she had a couple of bites. She has a few extra pounds on her though and obviously isn't starving! She did eat breakfast but not sure how much. Jamie called Jeanie while she was visiting and Dad got to talk to her. Jeanie and then Jamie (I talked to Jamie after she had talked to Dad) both said his speech was a little garbled and not exactly sure what he said but was carrying on a good conversation about something! LOL Jeanie said Dad was glad to get to talk to her. As for me, I had my repeat Mammo yesterday and it was the same as the last one with the little abnormality that he thinks is a lymph node. I now go back in 6 months for yet another one! I'm kinda tired of these things!LOL Love to all, Judy

Molli and I went to see Mom and Dad today about 12:30. What time did you go Jeanie? Anyway, they were both fine. Mom was glad to see Molli even though I don't think she knew who she was. She asked Molli and I if we were the same age! I thought it was funny - Molli didn't! hee hee! Anyway, Dad had eaten most of his lunch and then finished off Mother's cheetos. Mother had not eaten much at all. One of the ladies was trying to get her to eat some more. We went down to the nurse's station to get Dad his tobacco. Nikki said they had been fine, but like Jeanie said, had had some diarhea (msp?) earlier in the morning. I asked Molli what she thought about LCN and she said it was okay , but "sad". She was really nervous about seeing them there, so I was glad they were having a good day. I actually thought Mother was better than Dad. Dad didn't have much to say and I don't like that. I asked him if it had stormed last night and he said yes, but never mentioned the storm shelter time. Anyway, so far, so good. Love you all, pat
p.s. I got my cholesteral results today from my test I had done last Friday and my overall was 134 (should be under 200) and my LDL was 66 (should be under 100)!!
Those 80 mg. of Simvastatin are awesome! hee hee! Bring on the chocolate!!!

This is actually a post from Jeanie via me! LOL She went to see Mom and Dad today and they were both fine--tired but fine. She said Dad was in bed asleep when she first got there but did wake up and talked coherently. Mom was up in a wheelchair sleeping at first but woke up and was in a crying mood. She gets this way when she's tired and eventually Jeanie put her to bed and she instantly feel asleep. Dad even told Jeanie to shut out the light because maybe Mom would take a good nap and he was going back to sleep too! LOL We had major storms last night and evidently they had to move all the residents to the inside hallway. She talked to Nikki too and she said that Mom wasn't getting the Theraquil even at night now since the orders were deleted for the 2 that the psychiatrist had ordered and she thought it was deleted at night too accidently but that she would watch Mom and if she was the same with or without it at night, they'd just keep it stopped but if she started having trouble sleeping she'd get it added back at night only. Mom also has 2 new skin tears on her arm that was almost healed. The nurse told Jeanie that they had showered her and put a short sleeve tee shirt on her and before they could add anything to her arm, she had torn the skin again. Jeanie took her 2 more zipped hoodies today and I'm going to look at my walmart to see if they have any in her size because Jeanie could only find 2 at hers. All in all the bottom line is that they were both about the same as normal. Dad did have some diarrhea this morning Nikki said but his blood sugar was find and also his food intake was fine. Love to all, Jeanie and Judy. LOL